Coping with Grief During the Holidays: You’re Not Alone

The holidays are often described as “the most wonderful time of the year.” But if you’re grieving the loss of someone you love, this season can feel anything but wonderful. Instead of joy, you might feel sadness, stress, or even guilt for not feeling festive. If that sounds familiar, take a deep breath. You’re not alone, and it’s okay to feel exactly how you feel.

Why the Holidays Can Feel Hard

Grief doesn’t take a holiday. In fact, it often feels heavier this time of year because:

• Traditions remind us of who’s missing.
• There’s pressure to be cheerful when you’re hurting inside.
• Family gatherings can stir up bittersweet memories.

Acknowledging these feelings is the first step toward finding ways to cope.

Simple Ways to Care for Yourself

1. Give Yourself Permission It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to laugh. It’s okay to skip the party. There’s no “right” way to grieve, only what feels right for you.
2. Set Boundaries You don’t have to do everything. Choose what feels manageable and let others know what you need. Saying “no” is an act of self-care.
3. Honor Your Loved One Light a candle, share a favorite story, or start a new tradition in their memory. These small acts can bring comfort and connection.
4. Reach Out Grief can feel isolating, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Talk to a friend, join a support group, or connect with a counselor. Sometimes just saying, “I’m struggling,” can lift a weight.
5. Take Care of Your Body Rest when you can. Eat nourishing meals. Go for a walk. Even small steps can help you feel grounded.

When to Ask for Help

If sadness feels overwhelming or you’re struggling to get through the day, it may be time to reach out for professional support. Talking with a mental health provider can help you find tools to cope and remind you that healing is possible.

Remember: There’s no timeline for grief. Be gentle with yourself this season. Do what feels right for you and know that it’s okay to find moments of joy along the way.

Need Support? We’re Here for You

If you’re struggling with grief or finding the holidays especially difficult, you don’t have to face it alone. Saint Alphonsus offers compassionate behavioral health services, including counseling and mental health support, to help you navigate this season. To learn more or schedule an appointment, visit Saint Alphonsus Behavioral Health Services or call (208) 367-2121. Reaching out is a sign of strength—and we’re here to walk this journey with you.